Every woman before they get engaged swears up and down they will NOT be one of those brides on the reality TV show Bridezillas. No matter what you promise yourself and others, you will become a little bit of a monster during your engagement. Here are five ways to reduce or eliminate your transformation into the dreaded bridezilla.
This may seem like a no-brainer, or you may want to slap me for telling you, but relaxing is one of the best ways to avoid becoming a bridezilla. You won’t remember the little things that weren’t perfect. Even if big things get messed up, you will shrug it off after a couple months. Allows yourself to relax. Don’t stress about getting every little thing perfectly right. Things will get skewed from your vision no matter what you do.
You have all these people at your disposal – bridesmaids, groomsmen, moms, dads, aunts, uncles, cousins, and more. You may feel the need to micromanage every task you ask them to help with. Sometimes you might rip it away from them because they aren’t doing it right. Don’t do this. If someone wants to be helpful, assign them something that would really help you out. Check up on it when the due date is approaching, but don’t constantly badger and correct them for not doing the task they are graciously helping you with perfectly correct.
Everyone, and I mean everyone, will want to give you advice during your wedding planning. This can get old after a while, especially when you think you know what you are doing and don’t need any help. In hindsight, I realized these people had first hand experience with their weddings and were giving you an excellent look behind the veil of marriage. Take their advice. When they tell you that won’t matter, it won’t matter. When they say something is going to be difficult once you’re married, it’s going to be difficult. Listen to their advice and drink it in.
Ironically, it can be easy to forget why you are stressing yourself out and working your butt off. It is so you and your fiance can celebrate your union with friends and family and kick start the rest of your lives. Make some time for just you and your fiance so you can enjoy your “single” life without all of the pressure marriage brings.
This is the best way to avoid becoming a bridezilla. When you organize your planning, you will be less stressed and therefore less likely to lash out at other people that makes you the crazy bride stereotype.