6 Thank You Note Mistakes to Avoid

Thank-you notes are a sensible topic. Forgetting to send them out is scandalous. Writing the wrong stuff is unforgivable. No wonder newly-weds are “a bit” stressed when it comes to this.

Wedding thank-you notes should do exactly what their name implies: showing guests gratitude for honoring your wedding with their presence, their valuable assistance throughout the wedding planning and, last but not least, their generosity.

Not sure about what to write in your thank-you notes? First and foremost, here is what you SHOULD NOT write, so read on to find out the common thank you note mistakes to avoid when dealing with these little devils. You can thank me later.


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  1. Typos in the Guests’ Names

Oops, this is a dangerous one. Should you have to thank guests you don’t know very well, make sure you get their names right before sending out your thank-you note. First, check their wedding gift card. If the handwriting looks like Chinese calligraphy to you, ask a friend or family member about the correct names of your puzzling guests. Someone must know these people!

  1. Sending Notes to Guests Who Did Not Even Attend Your Wedding

This one may sound funny. Too bad the receivers will not think the same. If you had a lot of guests in your wedding, you might be confused at some point about the ones who actually attended and those who just sent a gift because they could not make it. To avoid this common blunder, check these people’s gift cards –they might give you a valuable hint like “So sorry I could not be with you on your big day”.

If the case remains a mystery, check with your friends or family for a confirmation. If no one seems to recall the presence of these people in your wedding, just focus on their thoughtfulness and generosity, without mentioning their taking part in the event. Huh… you might have some digging to do.

  1. Gushing Over the Cash

If your wedding guests have been really generous – aren’t you a lucky one? – it does not mean you have to mention the amount in your thank-you note, making it sound all about the $$$. The main thing to mention is how thankful you are to them for having celebrated this unique moment with you and just how great it was to have them witness your happiness. Keep it elegant and don’t mention what the money will be spent on. Unless it’s a deposit for a new home, which will make your guests feel their kindness really meant something.


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4. Sending Out PC-Typed Notes

Being a little old-fashioned always makes a good impression, and your thank-you notes give you the chance to impress your guests a little. This means taking some of your precious time to add a handwritten paragraph and signatures to your notes, instead of simply typing the text on your PC.

By doing so you will only show that you respect the wedding etiquette and cherish the fact that your guests showed up and honored you with their presence.

5. Using Electronic Thank-You Cards to Save Time

I know modern times are all about emails, internet and speedy communication. But what if some of your emailed cards never arrived in the desired inboxes, or simply landed in spam? Those guests will never know you even took the time to thank them!

Writing these cards might take you a good couple of days but it will all be worth it. Your guests (who traveled to be with you, gave you nice gifts and created a great atmosphere in your party) deserve a little bit of your time. Capisci?

6. Belated Thank-You Notes

Ok, here is a huge no-no. And please don’t blame it on your photographer taking too long to send you the wedding photos! Like it or not, your guests will be expecting your card, which should not take more than two months from the happy event. Send them as soon as possible so you get this duty off your chest. It’s a win-win situation!


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Darlings, you have no excuses to make these mistakes now. Enjoy your big day and be prepared for the after-fun – thanking each of your guests!

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